How To Stimulate Your Prostate For The Ultimate Male Orgasm!
By: Jessica & Lee Founders of DiskretAdultLife
Did you know through prostate stimulation you can orgasm like a woman… again and again!
Did you know you have a “Male g-spot” in your ass?
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When you reach your first prostate orgasm from prostate stimulation, you’re never going back to traditional sex again… Your sexual life has changed forever (for the better)!
After my first prostate orgasm (nearly 10 years ago), it was like opening pandoras box… Like a kid in the candy story I immediately ordered 10 different prostate toys and started exploring my body in new and extremely pleasurable ways!
I never stopped pursuing new heights of pleasure.
As a straight male, I say to you:
“Never stop exploring your body, and always strive for more pleasure. After all, variety and pleasure is the spice of life! Prostate stimulation is an avenue you must try!”
Prostate orgasms are not easy. Unfortunately, the harder you try, the more difficult it becomes too.
I wish I could say stick your index finger in your ass and swirl it around until you have a full body, mind-altering orgasm… But the truly good things in life are never easy; the same goes for prostate stimulation.
Many guys try it for years and still don’t succeed.
A prostate orgasm is a journey… not a sprint. Let me walk you through the necessities to try and have a chance at succeeding. Missing one of these, and your chances are extremely slim!
Think of a 20-piece puzzle, you need each piece in place at the right time in order to have a prostate orgasm, there is no technique that guarantees an instant prostate orgasm.
Sound like too much work?
Let me tell you, its totally worth it! Plus, once you experience a few, you know what your body craves and exactly how to do it. The pro’s can have a little perineum stimulation with proper breathing and achieve prostate O’s.
So, on the bright side it gets easier!
What’s A Prostate Orgasm Feel Like?
With proper prostate stimulation a world of opportunity opens.
Don’t worry if you try stimulating your prostate and it doesn’t happen. It can take months of attempting before you hit that “eureka moment”!
What should you expect when that moment hits?
Step #1 Contractions
First sign of nearing a prostate orgasm is your PC muscles and sphincter begin to contract.
Also known as peristaltic contractions. These are involuntary and give a feeling of fullness in the rectum area.
The penis will most likely be flaccid at this point, as your focusing on your anus… that’s okay!
Step #2 Sensations in Pelvis Build
Next, you will start feeling a hard swelling and muscle tension near the prostate gland your stimulating.
It might feel broader, like in my case; I feel it in my entire pubic area.
If it feels a little odd at first, that’s because you’re not used to it yet… However, it’s a good sign you’re on your way.
Focus on the warmth that grows in your rectum / pelvic area.
Understand how you got to this point. How it feels. If you can get here time and time again, you will eventually work beyond this point to a prostate orgasm.
In time, this feeling will get more intense and pleasurable.
Step # 3 Trembling & Penis Erection
As you continue to stimulate your prostate, the buildup will become a whole-body experience.
You may experience your entire body beginning to tremble. This reaction is normal and means your getting closer to a prostate orgasm. Keep stimulating your prostate!
Your shaft will start to get erect at this point. But don’t focus on it, your cock might even start to contract as through you were ejaculating.
Whatever you do, don’t focus on your cock… this is about prostate stimulation, the cock has always been the main attraction, it’s time for something new.
Step #4 Release & Intense Prostate Orgasm!
Its time for the big-O. It might take many times of getting to this point before your body builds enough to a complete and total release.
Your PC muscles will contract and the stimulation on the prostate will become overwhelmingly intense.
Pleasure will radiate from the prostate through your entire body. The waves of pleasure can occur even earlier.
The release can be of varying intensity between sessions and during sessions if repeated.
Repeated? What do you mean repeated? Ahh the most beautiful thing about prostate orgasms…
There is no dwell time required like from a traditional penis orgasm! With a prostate orgasm you can keep going like women do, without delay!
Your shaft might get flaccid, that doesn’t mean your prostate is done! Your whole body is stimulated and ready for more, don’t miss this opportunity!
How Intense is a Prostate Orgasm?
I understand it can be intimidating at first, but you have nothing to worry about.
The prostate orgasm is a natural body reaction from stimulating the prostate, just like you do your penis.
On a scale of 1-100 a penis orgasm is a 10, while a prostate is upper 90’s.
Penis orgasms originate from the genitals while a prostate orgasm is generated from deep within your core and radiates over your entire body.
When you milk your prostate, you can orgasm without ejaculating. This allows you to cum again, and again. As close as 5-10 seconds apart.
Prostate orgasms are full body, generated deep within. The penis orgasm is pinpoint pleasure and radiates for less time.
Setting the Expectations:
Guys, I know we are not really known for our patience…
Please understand prostate stimulation is not like penis stimulation. Thus, you stroke… you cum. The prostate is different.
Be ready to stimulate the prostate without an orgasm for 2,3, even 4 try’s.
From a general study done in the U.S. most guys do not understand how to achieve multiple non-ejaculatory orgasms in a single session for the first year of trying!
It takes an entire year to master? WTF…. I didn’t sign up for this!
Hold your horses… Just because your not experiencing multiple orgasms in a single session doesn’t mean your going to hate it! Getting to that status is half the fun!
While you learn, understand, and develop your body you are increasing the pleasure with each and every session. It took me a couple pleasurable experiences before I reached the big O. It takes some time but doesn’t mean its not pleasurable!
If you go into each prostate stimulation not expecting or “working towards” an orgasm, its much easier to actually achieve it!
Moral of the story… Focusing to hard can totally be a buzz kill!
How to stimulate the prostate
To be clear, there are a thousand different ways to stimulate the prostate. This is what I found to be easiest based on my personal experience, sex experts throughout the industry, and personal stories from other beginners.
You can start with your fingers and work your way to a prostate orgasm… So I’ve been told. I have never experienced a single prostate orgasm with just fingers.
Its distracting to have your finger up there, it doesn’t vibrate, and it needs to be twisted at an ergonomic nightmare to stimulate the prostate best.
In practice though- its practically impossible to do it yourself.
The first anal muscle ring is simple to go through just by relaxing you can slide your finger through, the second will require more time and easier to get through when super aroused and close to climax. You will find it at this point!
To be honest, I found mind without going through this longer process. However, if you want to be absolutely sure… this is the best route.
Or if you can’t find it by just being relaxed and aroused, you can go through this more involved process of absence.
External prostate stimulation
Before we dive into how to stimulate the prostate, I want you to know there are multiple ways to stimulate the prostate!
You can directly stimulate it, secondary stimulation, and finally externally stimulate the prostate. Here is a brief overview of each, but in this blog we will focus on secondary.
Direct prostate stimulation:
Believe it or not, sticking a prostate toy or your finger up your rectum is not the only way to stimulate your prostate. Nor is it the direct way to stimulate it.
First, you need to understand the prostate function. It’s not just built for pleasure you know… Its functional purpose is to secrete fluid during ejaculation that your sperm can swim in.
So, it gets stimulated and released right as you orgasms (from penis stimulation). Thus, massaging the prostate and stimulating it gives you that feeling of just before orgasming. This is why it’s so pleasurable!
But the prostate is actually located at the base of your urethra (giving it access to push this fluid through during ejaculation).
So, the only way to directly stimulate your prostate is through the urethra!
If you want to give it a go… By all means, go for it. You got much larger cojones than me!
So, that leads us to secondary stimulation. That would be massaging the prostate using a prostate toy or your fingers.
Much more my style!
External Prostate Stimulation:
External prostate massaging may involve exerting pressure on the perineum, the area between your scrotum and anus.
Practitioners can also perform prostate massages by gently rubbing the belly, between the pubic bone and the belly button. Some devices are also available to assist with this external prostate massaging.
Step #1 to Milking Your Prostate- “Get the Right Tools For The Job!”
Before you dive into any project, make sure you have the tools to get the job done the most effective way possible.
In order to stimulate the prostate properly, you’ll need a couple things:
Prostate Toys / Prostate Massagers
Anal Douche (optional)
Water-Based Lube / Oil-Based Lube
Porn If you desire
For a quick rundown on the process of using all these here you go:
Lay the towel on the bed, a mess usually doesn’t happen, but it can. Also, you don’t want lube all over your sheets.
Use an anal douche to clean your rectum. It is optional (I don’t use them) however I eat light during the day and shower beforehand. Clean your anus with soap and warm water at the minimum.
Use disposable gloves (if you wish to keep your hands lube free) and apply lube to your anus and the prostate toy you plan to use.
If you use an oil-based lube, it will last you an entire session with only applying once. But only use it on glass, stainless-steel, or medical grade silicone prostate toys.
Lastly, if you so desire, have some porn on in the background.
From personal experience, butt play requires a lot of lube! You don’t want to be messing around with your computer or remote once you applied all this lube to your butt. Have it on before you get started!
Step #2- R.E.L.A.X.
Arousal isn’t everything.
Relaxing your mind isn’t everything.
Relaxing your body isn’t everything.
You need all three of these to find the perfect trio of peaceful serenity.
Take 1-3 hours to do nothing but relax… Sounds crazy I know. Especially in today’s world where everyone is running around all day.
Believe me, when you become more experienced at prostate stimulation you won’t need this long, but as a beginner start with at least an hour of “You Time”!
Here are a couple simple ways to relax the mind and body that work for me:
Take a bath,
Lock the doors
Grab a glass of wine
Start a fire
Lay in bed and listen to audio porn
Visual porn can become to distracting during prostate play, it takes a lot of focus to achieve a prostate orgasm.
If visual porn gets in the way, try audio porn. Listening to women orgasming or erotic fiction can be a great way to stay focused on what you’re doing while giving a big boost in arousal.
Step #3- Slow and Steady Wins the Race!
The title says it all!
Please go slow, take your time, and focus on your prostate stimulation. Do not touch or focus on the penis.
If you waited a week with no sexual activity like suggested above, then your body will be craving stimulation in completely new forms. Not from the penis, so please don’t touch the penis!
If you want to jerk off after, that’s completely fine, just not while trying to stimulate your prostate.
In order for your body to be open about receiving prostate massages, you must completely relax your core, penis, and rectum.
A little trick for doing this is squeezing your PC muscles hard for 10 seconds then relaxing. You can do this a couple times.
Your PC muscles are what you squeeze when cutting off a pee mid-stream.
Step#4- Prostate Stimulation
Like any good sexual act, you never go right for “the goods”.
To properly stimulate your prostate, get extremely turned on, relaxed, lubed and ready to rock. Then slowly work your fingers or prostate toy around your anus.
The rim of your anus is critical! Slide your finger around the rim, perineum, and scrotum. Get worked up and in the zone. It should feel good! Don’t push too hard.
When you’re relaxed and its feeling good, slightly apply pressure to your anus. Tapping, pushing and release, or small circular motions all work well.
Begin to work the tip of your finger in, then start go deeper as it feels more comfortable.
My favorite position is laying on my left side, while reaching back with my right hand. Keeping my knees bent. It’s the most natural and relaxing to me.
But there are a couple different positions you can use like doggy style or laying on your back with legs up in the air or against a wall.
Once you’ve found your prostate, insert the prostate toy of your choice.
Don’t expect magic to just happen!
Work your prostate toy around, try different depths and angles. Work it until you hit the P-spot and it play with the pressure.
Focus on the waves of pleasure and sensations it brings.
Continue to breath deep and take your time.
If you feel that sensation of an orgasm approaching, don’t worry! I freaked myself out of a prostate orgasm the first couple times. Just relax and enjoy the pleasure, if it happens it happens.
You’ll notice sensations getting stronger and the pleasure becoming more intense if you’re heading in the right direction.
You might feel the vibrations in your entire body, or in only your rectum, perineum and genital area.
Either way, just roll with the changes and keep going.
Step#5- Prostate Orgasm!
As your entire body begins to warm and contracting, you’ll feel something big is coming… And it is!
Your ab muscles will begin to shake, PC muscles will flex and relax on their own.